As the Mayweather vs McGregor fight became a part of history, and the debate amongst family and friends has been settled, we wanted to share quick tips for not having your children imitate the ring at home. As parents we need to remember we need to help our kids learn and manage their social/emotional skills. This is crucial for their emotional intelligence (EQ) which will help them become better decision-making young adults.
Your children obviously like to play together and sometimes they just get stuck in conflict. Here are three tips to help prevent conflict:
1) Lead By Example
This is tough as you have to be aware that your children are better than secret agents when it comes to observing your every move. Which means when you are with them you have to be careful about how you express your emotions. No road rages or bad lipping your peers and no yelling. A couple things you can do is to show them how you resolve your issues as parents. Just as you want your children to take a breath, calm down, and then talk about the problem, you should do the same with your significant other. Show your children that you appreciate what you do for each other. Tell them that you appreciate your significant other cooked for you or helped your children with their homework.
2) Help Them Become a Team
Reward-based appreciation is not necessarily a great method, especially with siblings. Even though it might look like a harmless form of appreciation, there might be a reward that might be considered better, which can cause increased internal conflicts for the kids. However, do reward teamwork. Dr. Laura from Aha Parenting, suggests using something like a cooperation jar where if they come to you for help with a conflict or if they work together to avoid/solve the conflict put money in the jar that they will split equally.
3) Don't Separate Your Love
It is important for kids to know that they are loved and accepted for who they are. This helps children respect enforced standards and be better at sharing. More importantly,, they feel more confident with what makes them different and also begin to appreciate what is different about their siblings and others. A couple ways to go about this process is to create win-win situations. When a treat is being shared, the one who doesn’t do the dividing then gets to pick first, or the one who gets to play the game later may get to play his/her game a tiny bit longer. The important thing to remember about such activities is to never compare your children to one another. Make sure each has enough personal space and make sure that you spend enough one-on-one time with each of them.
Keeps these tips in mind while you are preventing a fight. Overtime your kids will learn to resolve their issues by themselves. The most important will be setting the example yourself. You cannot expect your child to do something, that you are not willing to do yourself. They are watching your every move.